Wedding planning is fun and excited, but there are also things that are stressful and sometimes ruin the good feeling o celebration. So expect the unexpected and 10 things to watch out for while wedding planning.
- YOUR GROOM IS GRUMPY
When things get stressful with the planning, some sensitive brides-to-be may read too much into this situation, thinking their future husband has had a change of heart and that she no longer is the one for him. Don’t think this way! Your fiancé just may be acting like a guy that isn’t interested in flowers and proper invitation address etiquette. The only contribution I have ever had from my husband with wedding planning was the constant reminder of ‘Keep to the budget’. If you really feel like the idea of involving your man, assign some specific tasks to him with clear guidance on what you expect.
- SHOE SHOPPING PROVES TO BE MORE DIFFICULT THAN PLANNED
This may seem like a trivial issue, but wedding shoe shopping can be a difficult and stressful experience! If you don’t want sky-high stilettos or don’t want to spend a fortune on shoes you most likely only will wear for a few hours before changing into flats or flip-flops, the available selection is limited. My advice is to exhaust the use of Google Search and Shopping – you eventually should find something that works for you and your preferences. One other idea is to give this task to someone (mother of the bride, MOH or sister of the bride) and make it something special to wear. I asked my husband to find the pair of wedding shoes for me, and the only criteria was wedding like, 13cm in height and comfortable to wear. It may not be the best looking shoes in the world, but there are sentimental values attached and I feel very happy and cherished when wearing them on my big day.
- VENDORS END UP COSTING MORE THAN YOU BUDGETED
No matter how strictly you stick to your wedding budget, it’s most likely inevitable that one or a couple vendors will end up costing more than planned. Perhaps you decided that you wanted an extra photographer, or you simply cannot live without shrimp cocktail as an appetizer during cocktail hour at the reception. It’s also possible that a vendor had to raise their prices or is charging you extra depending on your wants and demands. Regardless of the reason, try to have a financial buffer in place to help avoid any surprise extra expenses, and have a written contract in place that outlines the services and prices that each vendor is providing to you. And when it comes to the time when you have to cut some items to keep on the budget, always remind yourself what is the most important element to you on your wedding day, and choose what matter the most.
- FAMILY MEMBERS AND FRIENDS HAVE AN OPINION ABOUT EVERYTHING
Everybody who’s anybody will all of a sudden come out of the shadows and offer up their advice and “expertise” in an attempt to help you during wedding planning. It could be a close family member or friend that you don’t even speak to on a regular basis, but several people will voice their opinion about every aspect of your big day. This can get rather annoying or irritating if you don’t set boundaries early on; do your best to stay calm and listen to what everybody has to say, but you’re also entitled to turn a deaf ear to those who don’t hold any merit or financial weight to your wedding plans. Always remember, it is YOUR big day, it is OK to get advice, but you don’t need to follow all of them.
- YOUR PARENTS AND FUTURE IN-LAWS CLASH OVER PLANS
This is bound to happen when money is involved, but both sets of parents also could clash due to a lack of knowing one another. This can become a sticky situation because more times than most, the bride and groom get thrown in the middle and are left to mediate the problem. Consider getting your parents and your future in-laws together ahead of time before wedding planning is heavily underway to help iron out any issues and differences. And it always useful to set some expectation with your own parents first, then talk among the two of you to make a joint decision on things.
- YOUR MAID OF HONOR AND/OR BRIDESMAIDS ARE NOT INVOLVED
In nearly every wedding party, there’s at least one individual who goes from being “so honoured!” and enthusiastic about being a part of the big day to becoming either a diva or total downer. Weddings have a tendency to bring out the bad sides of even the nicest people – just be prepared to handle the situation in a calm, mature manner so it doesn’t blow up into a bigger issue than it needs to be. Hopefully you have others in your bridal party that can help you take control of the situation. In the worst case scenario, you can always fell back on your mom or future mother-in-law who will always be happy to lead you the extra pair of hands you will need.
- SO AND SO WANTS TO BE INCLUDED IN EVERY. SINGLE. ACTIVITY
Whether it be your grandma, your future mother-in-law or a close friend, there inevitably will be one person that believes they should be involved and present for every single wedding-related activity – whether it be dress shopping, picking out flowers, meeting with vendors, etc. When it comes to wedding planning, more is not the merrier – do not invite more people than necessary along to important events. However, it would be nice make a compromise to keep your fear-of-missing-out person happy and involved sometime, after all, they only want to be involved because it is your wedding.
- YOUR MOM ALL OF A SUDDEN BELIEVES SHE KNOWS EVERYTHING
Even if you and your mom are the best of friends, the two of you at some points will clash heads during wedding planning. You might reach a point when your mom thinks she knows what’s best for you, your groom and everybody involved in the wedding, and she will try to take over all the plans and details. Don’t be afraid to speak up – ultimately, your mom probably just wants you to be happy and help in any way that she can to relieve your stress.
- … AND YOUR MOTHER-IN-LAW BECOMES OVERPROTECTIVE OF HER SON
As the wedding day approaches, your future mother-in-law probably will experience an epiphany that her little boy is all grown up and getting married. She may also struggle with the fact that she no longer will be the primary woman in her son’s life. It’s okay to honour her and be sensitive to her feelings throughout the wedding planning process, but don’t let her – or your groom! – forget who the woman in charge is.
- THE COMPLAINTS FROM OUT OF TOWN GUESTS ON COST OF AIRFARE AND ACCOMMODATIONS
Even if you are able to negotiate a special discounted rate for your wedding guests at one or two local hotels, there still will be a select few that aren’t happy with the cost. And, since it’s not up to you to pay for out-of-town guests’ airfare, they also may complain about the cost of their airline ticket to attend the wedding. My recommendation of how to handle this? Oh well! If people aren’t happy about it, they simply can choose not to come. Trust me – guests that want to be there to you celebrate your wedding regardless of the cost or hassle to get there will make it work.
Although this list is just a preview of potential situations you could run into during wedding planning, just remember to always be prepared for the unexpected. And, don’t ever lose sight that this is yours and your groom’s big day – don’t let anybody or anything spoil the fun and exciting time that is, and should be, wedding planning!